It's really not very often that Steve and I get out on the town as a couple. It's a hard gig having two little kids and when one of us manages to break free and get out, the other usually stays home with the kids. It works ok most of the time but it's a challenge to the relationship when we're never actually out having fun together. There's a lot of stress to manage in our house and all too often he and I are at each other's throats.
During one particularly "tense" stretch recently (read: during my Whole30), I was looking for something fun for us to do together and I discovered that a Rolling Stones tribute band (that I've seen before and really liked), was playing at a pub the next town over for Halloween. In over 12 years of being together, Steve and I have never dressed up or gone out for Halloween so I thought it might be a good "team building" experience for he and I to get dressed up as a couple and go out together.
I almost defeated the whole purpose of this exercise with all the extra work that putting together costumes added to my daily workload. Trips to and from the second hand store, to the craft store, and then late nights with my scissors and hot glue gun made for an extra bitchy and more resentful than usual me! I considered pulling the chute on the whole thing a few times, but with having involved another couple and their friends, I was in too deep to turn back.
We ended up winning prizes for our costumes. We're now the proud new owners of a new set of beer glasses and two XL Molson Canadian t-shirts. Makes it all worth while.